Discover If Your Relationship Can (or Should Be) Saved 

Shift the patterns of crazymaking arguments, tension, and conflict  in your relationship starting today with a proven process that actually moves you toward rapid change

A Self-Paced Mentoring Program Taught by a Trained Therapist and Transformation Coach, Leanne Oaten

End the Cycle Evolve is a step-by-step program and method for women experiencing emotional abuse from a partner who exhibits narcissistic traits. 

You’ve researched narcissism at length and found your partner doesn’t fit all of the criteria and behaviors of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and because your partner shows both positive and negative behaviors and doesn’t fit the full criteria for NPD, you’re unsure if you’re actually experiencing abuse

You swing back and forth between being ready to leave and wondering if there may be hope for change. 

Or, maybe you’re separated and hoping for a reunion once he’s worked on himself.

If you’re wondering if the change is possible, or know that it isn’t and want a pathway out of the relationship, read on…

Nothing changes until YOU change

Other programs and experts on narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships simply tell you to leave and go “no contact” as the only option, or they offer guidance on healing after you’ve left. 

End The Cycle Evolve is specifically created for women who are experiencing toxic relationship cycles, who aren’t sure if they should give the relationship more time, or if leaving is the only way toward a whole and healed life

It’s also for women who don’t feel leaving is the right decision, who have kids or other entanglements.

Some women think the benefits of staying outweigh the cost of leaving and even fear the damage done to their children if they leave.

This is a no-judgment zone! 

Going to friends, family, and uninformed therapists who minimize what you’re going through only leads to further traumatization

You need a proven strategy and plan to follow to actually move toward real change – from the inside out

A holistic path that integrates your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical dimensions, that merges psychology, counselling, coaching, and solution-focused mentorship.

ETCE Is The Program For You If…

• Your partner refuses to take ownership of his behaviour and turns everything around on to you (which leaves you questioning if your concerns are valid)
• Your partner tells you you’re crazy, irrational, always complaining, or too sensitive all the time when you share with him how he’s hurting you
• You feel like you have to constantly repeat yourself over and over again until you’re exhausted, and when you think he finally gets it this time, nothing actually changes long term
• You feel like you’re always talking and talking, trying to articulate and explain perfectly how you feel, but your partner is never actually listening to you, so you go around and around in circles until you collapse from emotional exhaustion
• You continually feel invalidated, rejected, and like your partner doesn’t care about you or how you feel, it feels like he has no concern or empathy for how you’re hurting (due to his behavior)
• You get the feeling that all the problems in the relationship are your fault because every issue you raise somehow gets turned around onto you
• Your partner constantly minimizes and makes excuses for his bad behavior (which is always somehow your fault)
• You often find yourself swinging from feeling you want to leave because the behavior is so intolerable, to feeling hope when he’s “being nice” and promising to change, to wondering if you’ve tried hard enough to question if he really is a narcissist, back to self blame, back into the cycle
• You often feel confused after interactions with your partner, or by his strange and odd behaviors that leave you questioning yourself, and wondering if you really are going crazy
• You want to change your life and be DONE with the chaotic and stressful up-and-down cycle you're living in 

After only 30 days in the program how one woman ended the cycle in her marriage:

"Since becoming a boundary badass from your program, I have found it incredibly difficult to move backward and settle for less than I deserve. I have since moved out into my own apartment, became a single mom of two toddlers, and I got a full-time job in the hospital where they are paying for my medical assisting certification. My life is spinning in a positive, liberating direction. But I was still spinning.  It’s essential for me to continue this program and learn and gain tools. And the biggest thank you, for showing me my strengths that have always been there and teaching me to implement my worthiness. I’m so thankful for you." ~ETCE Warrior 

Here's a sneak peek into the modules waiting for you inside...

Perhaps right about now, you’re feeling terrified that by joining you’ll have to make a decision whether or not to leave your partner, and you’re not ready for that…

This program is not about forcing you to make a decision about whether to stay or go. It’s about guiding you to making your own decisions by doing the inner work necessary to change your unhealthy patterns… because in the end, nobody knows better about what to do about your life than you do. 

Here’s What You Get Instant Access To When You Invest in End The Cycle Evolve Mentoring Program Today:

• 5 Core Modules of my End the Cycle Signature program are delivered via videos, audio, workbooks, PDF guides, and recorded classes. Self-paced pre-recorded videos, audios, and PDF printouts you study on your own time ($10,000 value)
• Weekly emails for the initial 30-day Relationship Reset to keep you on track and focused on the work (it’s like having a coach guiding you every step of the way)

And, until March 8th get access to these epic bonuses to deepen your transformation!

When you join you'll get access to a bonus bundle worth over $10,000 (If I were to coach you 1:1).

The bonus bundle includes 2 LIVE group coaching calls with other ETCE women on a similar path. 

Call dates:

March 13, and 27, 2023 @ 1 pm PST.

BONUS BUNDLE INCLUDES:

Over 20 hours of recorded coaching calls in MP3 format. 

Listen in while I coach women just like you through similar challenges you’re experiencing right now. 

And, you get access to all of these calls at no extra cost!

 (Over $10,000 value)

Everything is locked securely in your password-protected learning portal to access 24/7 when it's convenient for you and is accessible on any device. 

How is ETC More Beneficial Than Going to Therapy?

“The journaling prompts and having some type of “homework” was very helpful. It gave me things to take action on instead of just talking about things.”

“ETC made me realize my codependency and my “role” with some of my past relationships with men. ETC dives deep in to narcissism and personality traits that go along with it. ETC reminds me to let go of the “victim mentality”; providing me with an awareness and accountability for myself. I matter.”

“ETC offered specific information that helped me understand not only the spectrum of narcissistic behavior but also my own role in the relationship. ETC also hammered home the importance of self-care as a means to place the focus on myself as well as highlight how self-care practices are essential to staying well physically and emotionally.”

“The accountability and an outlined directives for self soothing and regulating emotions have been most helpful once aware of codependency patterns.”

“In ETC there is time to digest and reflect on the content and how it applies to my situation, while the twice weekly video calls kept me accountable. It’s one thing to read/listen to the modules and entirely another to do the self reflection and work. I was motivated to stay on top of it all so that I could get as much as possible out of the video calls. I have done therapy on my own and with my partner and often find that the sessions themselves are packed full of information and emotion, with too much time between sessions to ensure that personal or relationship progress remains a top priority. ETC almost feels like a month-long therapy session where I was actually able to relate to the content and truly learn about myself and what I need. I am in a much better position to make real plans and initiate real change in my life.”

“ETC is way more actionable and future-focused than therapy.”

What Women Like You Are Saying About The Program:

“Before stumbling across awakening women on Instagram, I was confused, being manipulated and emotionally abused, daily. I didn’t even know what gaslighting was. I was often crying, not wanting to proceed with my day, tangled up with my partner. Everyday now, [after working with Leanne and the ETC program], I empower myself more and feel better. I am in a healthy routine and bettering myself now, I’m learning about energy and I am motivated to protect mine. My focus used to be on my partner and everything he was doing. Now my focus is on me and my kids. I’ve changed the way I react to him and slowly but surely disconnecting myself from the toxicity” C.C

“I came across this course at the exact moment I needed to, and it has been beyond valuable. In all honesty there were moments where I felt like I wasn’t make any progress, and ones where I doubted that I ever would. But just doing the work- reading and listening and actually writing out my reflections really did result in clarity. Suddenly my needs and the beginnings of some real boundaries were right in front of me, in my own handwriting! I feel more in tune with myself than I think I ever have, and I am so grateful for you Leanne, and this incredible course. Thank you so, so much.”

“If you get a chance to work with Leanne she will help you transform your behavior and shift your energy towards what serves you. I’m so grateful she has taught me to love myself just the way I am and to go deep and face my emotions head on. Leanne taught me to set boundaries and take care of me. Thank you for lifting me up”. J.P

“Before the ETC program I was overwhelmed, my head was spinning, I was constantly hurt and in distress and had no clue why other than that my relationship was unhealthy. This program helped me to see the dynamics at play, know that I am not crazy or the one causing the chaos, know that yes I do play a part in the dance and to take responsibility for my own wellbeing. These are valuable life tools and essential when dealing with a covertly abusive partner because generic advice doesn’t work with them. I feel like I armed with the tools I need to move forward.” L.G

“ETC has radically shifted my reality. ETC has transformed my beliefs that I was powerless, unworthy, unseen and unheard. For so long I felt stuck and helpless. ETC is a bright beacon of light shining light on the TRUTH. The truth is I am powerful, worthy, seen and heard! I matter! I am deserving of a healthy relationship and I no longer accept mistreatment in place of love. Thanks Leanne!” A.T

“Before I found Leanne, I had spent a year reading and watching everything I could get my hands on about narcissistic abuse. I went from simply being educated about it to being supported and coached in such a caring and understanding way that gave me the strength and validation to leave. If I wanted to stay, she would have certainly helped me with that too. That’s what is different with Leanne. She supports you with whatever you decide to do.”

“Before ETC I was still trying to figure out both me and my husband. ETC helped me to focus solely on me and what I need and want in a relationship. I was able to let go of some things that were not helping me and had actually been hurting me. I gained a lot of confidence about myself and my own abilities. I feel like a capable and empowered woman now. I don’t know exactly what my future looks like but I know I can handle it.”

“Before ETC, I was leaning toward leaving the relationship–and that’s where I am now, except I feel much more “prepared” mentally and emotionally. I truly believe the boundary work (which I desperately needed to do) will benefit other relationships in my life — and perhaps future relationships. I also learned some things about myself, including how the way I’ve shown up/reacted to my current relationship is often the way I’m showing up/reacting to other things in my life. This was a powerful realization for me–and was one of several “aha” moments.”

“Before joining ETC, I knew my relationship was toxic but my coping was not getting me the change or feeling of stability and inner calm I desperately was seeking from others (friends, doctor, therapist.) Two plus years of personal therapy seemed lacking in the understanding of emotional abuse and how to help myself. An attempt to leave without support was unsuccessful. ETC has given me a clearer understanding on the cycle of abuse, tactics used to keep me in fear and under control in this relationship for years. I am now aware of how my silence, over-functioning, almost nonexistent boundaries and victim mentality contribute to abandonment of myself, codependency, reactive behaviours and avoidance of conflict. Unresolved childhood trauma and buried emotions added to my inner turmoil and inability to self regulate my moods. Learning to detach from negative interactions and conversation has been a huge positive shift in my self healing. The many layers of trauma need my attention for ongoing healing. Increasing selfcare, keeping routine while reinforcing my boundaries and SPEAKING my truth (and improving what and how I say it and positive self talk)is building my self confidence. Although I know I no longer wish to remain in this relationship, I am staying, for now, to work on myself in preparation. I feel prepared with a self care routine for my emotional and physical health; along with an exit strategy. Being aware of old ways of avoidance and fear; how to return to myself and seek support when taking the next steps is crucial for my success and growth. With divine gratitude, S.R.”

“My partner and I have been inching toward separating for years, but we have a young daughter and separation would likely mean she and I moving to another town to be near my family. Over the past few months the discussions were getting more serious and there were a number of times where we decided to move forward with separating. My partner would have an overnight change of heart and the pattern would begin again. I was burned out, completely dissociated from myself and at a loss about how to proceed. Now I have taken ownership of my decision to stay in this relationship for now. I have always felt like I wouldn’t leave without knowing I had tried everything, but couldn’t accept that the thing I needed to try was prioritizing myself and my needs. I understand that, while I was not the cause of it, my codependency and lack of boundaries were enabling his emotionally abusive behaviour. Working on myself has given me clarity on what my boundaries are and I find myself setting them more consistently every day. I’m learning to trust myself more and worry about the future less.”

“I was lost in the fog because I had not been true to myself due to strong codependent patterns. I learned that I need to practice self care. I understood that setting boundaries and enforcing them is a skill – it needs to be practiced consistently. And most importantly, I learned to take radical self responsibility and own my power. I am not a victim.”

Ready to Leap into Your Next Level? 

I'll see you inside!

~Leanne